★以下是英文寫作翻譯頻道為大家整理的《英文閱讀理解之：如何融合繼親家庭 》，供大家參考。
1 what is your style? Mixing machine type: this kind of state of mind that put all of the ingredients in a mixing together, and finally into a homogeneous mixture. I'm sure you've noticed in the past often used to refer to the most common word generation stepfamily is "mixed family". But specialized in following people dear family counseling and education will not use the word "mixing" family simply. This is only because most following dear families could not mixing. If the mixing, so some people often will be smashed to pieces. But when cooking, mixing is you put the raw materials are combined into the process fluid mixtures -- think fruit cool or cream soup will know what it is. From the relationship between the level of a following, dear family rarely may become a "whole". The more the reality is such a process: different materials together, or come into contact with each other, like a different part into the casserole stewed. 2 the stepfather or stepmother, and a step children have close relations, is another step children build relationships, and also the older the stepchild has a certain distance, these are normal. The relationship between a parent family within the different, and not a liquid mixture of relationship. 3 food processing device type: these following Pro marriage family to family history before each other trying to chop cut, immediately put all ingredients quickly together. But when love has not produced, this approach will enable family members feel torn to pieces, no one can keep intact. Dian Type example 4 this mindset is adult stepchildren parents said following the requirement of "father" or "mother", as if to tell the child: "we have chopped your biological father, throw him aside, this is your new daddy". These parents believe their children will go for it. 5 Microwave Type: these families refuse to be defined as following the dear family, attempts by rapid heating material way into a "Black family" (pun meaning). They strive to avoid paste the following the dear family and their labels, and any other family of different implication. Some people tell me, they hate their own family is called following the dear family, because it makes them feel inferior. Stepfamily this no fault, compared with other families, they are neither good nor bad, just different. 6 I want to emphasize this point, no matter how you work hard and want your stepfamily through German family with exactly the same, but it is impossible to. Although following the dear family also has the same biological family similarities, but each following the dear family has the same biological family different unique characteristics. Some aspects are the same, some and not the same. 7 for the normal integration following the dear family, the biggest obstacle is both parents deny the fact. Consciously or unconsciously, parents always try to make their following the dear family with their original family or the first family as like as two peas -- if different would be better. "After all," says one, "Blount" buzz do, why do we not?" 8 to accept the challenge and opportunity to your home unique, is a method to find creative solutions to your dilemma of the first step. If you refuse to admit a difference, will lose the ability to communicate, learn new and more effective method in casual. 9 pressure cooker type: the family fusion results, is the raw materials and spices (namely rituals, values, preferences) in high pressure under the completely mixed up. The family life under a lot of pressure, because the expectations too high, often fried boil.
Translation read, think, research 510 step family that solve the conflict holiday ritual is to combine the traditional custom, this is the pressure cooker type mentality. Stepfamily understanding merger ceremony is sometimes effective, this is very important, but forced the family to embrace this merger will destroy the results. The problems from the following example can be clear at a glance. Paul and his children formed a meaningful Christmas tradition, each person will open a gift on Christmas Eve, the remaining second days and then open the gift. However, his new wife Sharon and her children kept on Christmas morning after breakfast special after the present all of the traditional open. In a panic, Paul at second a few weeks ago Christmas call said: "I'm afraid of Christmas this year, last year I and Sharon combined our own traditional festivals, but the result is too tragic. According to my side of the tradition, we let the children open a gift on Christmas Eve; according to her side of the traditional, open the remaining gifts at Christmas after breakfast. But all the people do not like the results. Everyone feel at a funeral than celebrating Christmas, the final Sharon and I broke up until after the new year. How to do this year, had their own holiday yourself?" To find the effective Christmas method sometimes needs a trial and error process, but forced the family to accept only leads to error.
1．什么是你的方式？ 攪拌混合機式：這種心態(tài)認為把所有的原料放在一起攪拌混合，最后變成一種均勻的的混合物。我確信你已經(jīng)注意到過去常常用來指代繼親家庭的最普遍的詞語就是“攪拌混合家庭”。但是專門從事繼親家庭咨詢和教育的人士不會簡單地用“攪拌混合家庭”這個詞語。這僅僅是因為大多數(shù)繼親家庭不可能攪拌混合。如果攪拌混合，那么有人通常就會粉身碎骨。但當烹飪時，攪拌是你把原料組合成流體混合物的過程--想想水果爽或奶油湯就知道是什么了。從關系層面來說，一個繼親家庭很少可能成為一個“整體”。更現(xiàn)實情況是這樣的一個過程：不同的原料融合在一起，或者相互接觸，很像一道又不同部分燴成的砂鍋菜。 2． 對繼父或繼母來說，和一個繼子女有著親密的關系，正在和另一個繼子女建立關系，還和年紀較大的那個繼子女有一定距離，這些都是很正常的。一個繼親家庭內部的關系親疏不同，并不是液態(tài)的混合體的關系。 3． 食物加工器式：這些繼親婚家庭把彼此以前的家庭歷史剁碎切斷，試圖立即將所有原料迅速地合為一體。但是當愛還沒有產生時，這種做法會使家庭成員感覺被撕成了碎片，沒有誰還能保持完整。 4． 這種心態(tài)的典式例子就是大人要求繼子女稱繼父母為“爸爸”或“媽媽”，仿佛是告訴孩子：“我們已經(jīng)剁碎了你親生爸爸，把他丟到一邊去，這是你的新爸爸”。這些父母居然相信他們的孩子就會買賬。 5． 微波式：這些家庭拒絕被定義為繼親家庭，試圖通過快速加熱原料的方式變成一個“黑家庭”（雙關含義）。它們力求避免貼上繼親家庭的標簽，以及它們與別的任何家庭的不同的暗示。有些人告訴我，他們討厭自己的家庭被稱為繼親家庭，因為這讓他們覺得低人一等。繼親家庭本無過錯，較之于其他的家庭，它們既不好也不壞，只是不同罷了。 6． 我想強調這一點，不管你如何拼命地努力，想讓你的繼親家庭跟嫡親通家庭一模一樣，但這就是辦不到。雖然繼親家庭也有同嫡親家庭相似的地方，但每個繼親家庭都有同嫡親家庭不一樣的獨有的特點。有些方面是相同的，有些又不相同。 7． 對于繼親家庭的正常整合，障礙是父母雙方都否認這個事實。不管是有意識還是無意識，父母總是試圖使他們的繼親家庭跟他們原先的家庭或第一個家庭一模一樣——如有不同也只會使更好?！爱吘梗庇腥苏f，“布朗特"布茲做到了，我們?yōu)槭裁床恍心?？?8． 去接受你家庭獨特的挑戰(zhàn)和機會, 是找到創(chuàng)造性地解決你的困境的方法的所邁出的第一大步。如果你拒絕承認有區(qū)別, 就會在不經(jīng)意間喪失斯學習新的更有效的溝通方法的能力。 9. 壓力鍋式：這個家庭融合方式的結果，是把原料和調料（即儀式、價值觀、偏好）置于高壓之下完全混合起來。這種家庭生活處于極大的壓力之下，由于期望值過高，常常會炸開鍋。
translation 讀、思、研 5 10． 繼親家庭認為解決節(jié)日儀式方面的各種沖突就是去合并傳統(tǒng)習俗，這就是壓力鍋式的心態(tài)表現(xiàn)。繼親家庭了解合并儀式有時是有效的，這點十分重要的，但是迫使家人欣然接受這種合并就會破壞其結果。這種麻煩從如下的例子中就能一目了然。Paul和他的孩子形成了一個有意義的圣誕傳統(tǒng)，每個人會在平安夜打開一份禮物，剩余的禮物第二天再打開。但是，他的新太太Sharon和她的孩子保持著在圣誕節(jié)早上吃完特別早餐后再把禮物全部打開的傳統(tǒng)?？只胖校琍aul在第二個圣誕節(jié)前幾周打電話說：“我好怕過今年的圣誕，去年我和Sharon合并我們各自的節(jié)日傳統(tǒng)，但是結果太慘了。按我這邊的傳統(tǒng)，我們讓孩子在平安夜打開一份禮物；按她那邊的傳統(tǒng)，在圣誕節(jié)的早餐后打開剩余的禮物。但是所有人都不喜歡這個結果。每個人都感覺在參加葬禮而不是在慶祝圣誕，最后我和Sharon鬧翻了，直到過完新年。今年該怎么辦呢，自己過自己的節(jié)日嗎？” 找到有效的過圣誕的方法有時需要一個試錯的過程，但是迫使家人接受只能導致錯誤。
1 what is your style? Mixing machine type: this kind of state of mind that put all of the ingredients in a mixing together, and finally into a homogeneous mixture. I'm sure you've noticed in the past often used to refer to the most common word generation stepfamily is "mixed family". But specialized in following people dear family counseling and education will not use the word "mixing" family simply. This is only because most following dear families could not mixing. If the mixing, so some people often will be smashed to pieces. But when cooking, mixing is you put the raw materials are combined into the process fluid mixtures -- think fruit cool or cream soup will know what it is. From the relationship between the level of a following, dear family rarely may become a "whole". The more the reality is such a process: different materials together, or come into contact with each other, like a different part into the casserole stewed. 2 the stepfather or stepmother, and a step children have close relations, is another step children build relationships, and also the older the stepchild has a certain distance, these are normal. The relationship between a parent family within the different, and not a liquid mixture of relationship. 3 food processing device type: these following Pro marriage family to family history before each other trying to chop cut, immediately put all ingredients quickly together. But when love has not produced, this approach will enable family members feel torn to pieces, no one can keep intact. Dian Type example 4 this mindset is adult stepchildren parents said following the requirement of "father" or "mother", as if to tell the child: "we have chopped your biological father, throw him aside, this is your new daddy". These parents believe their children will go for it. 5 Microwave Type: these families refuse to be defined as following the dear family, attempts by rapid heating material way into a "Black family" (pun meaning). They strive to avoid paste the following the dear family and their labels, and any other family of different implication. Some people tell me, they hate their own family is called following the dear family, because it makes them feel inferior. Stepfamily this no fault, compared with other families, they are neither good nor bad, just different. 6 I want to emphasize this point, no matter how you work hard and want your stepfamily through German family with exactly the same, but it is impossible to. Although following the dear family also has the same biological family similarities, but each following the dear family has the same biological family different unique characteristics. Some aspects are the same, some and not the same. 7 for the normal integration following the dear family, the biggest obstacle is both parents deny the fact. Consciously or unconsciously, parents always try to make their following the dear family with their original family or the first family as like as two peas -- if different would be better. "After all," says one, "Blount" buzz do, why do we not?" 8 to accept the challenge and opportunity to your home unique, is a method to find creative solutions to your dilemma of the first step. If you refuse to admit a difference, will lose the ability to communicate, learn new and more effective method in casual. 9 pressure cooker type: the family fusion results, is the raw materials and spices (namely rituals, values, preferences) in high pressure under the completely mixed up. The family life under a lot of pressure, because the expectations too high, often fried boil.
Translation read, think, research 510 step family that solve the conflict holiday ritual is to combine the traditional custom, this is the pressure cooker type mentality. Stepfamily understanding merger ceremony is sometimes effective, this is very important, but forced the family to embrace this merger will destroy the results. The problems from the following example can be clear at a glance. Paul and his children formed a meaningful Christmas tradition, each person will open a gift on Christmas Eve, the remaining second days and then open the gift. However, his new wife Sharon and her children kept on Christmas morning after breakfast special after the present all of the traditional open. In a panic, Paul at second a few weeks ago Christmas call said: "I'm afraid of Christmas this year, last year I and Sharon combined our own traditional festivals, but the result is too tragic. According to my side of the tradition, we let the children open a gift on Christmas Eve; according to her side of the traditional, open the remaining gifts at Christmas after breakfast. But all the people do not like the results. Everyone feel at a funeral than celebrating Christmas, the final Sharon and I broke up until after the new year. How to do this year, had their own holiday yourself?" To find the effective Christmas method sometimes needs a trial and error process, but forced the family to accept only leads to error.
1．什么是你的方式？ 攪拌混合機式：這種心態(tài)認為把所有的原料放在一起攪拌混合，最后變成一種均勻的的混合物。我確信你已經(jīng)注意到過去常常用來指代繼親家庭的最普遍的詞語就是“攪拌混合家庭”。但是專門從事繼親家庭咨詢和教育的人士不會簡單地用“攪拌混合家庭”這個詞語。這僅僅是因為大多數(shù)繼親家庭不可能攪拌混合。如果攪拌混合，那么有人通常就會粉身碎骨。但當烹飪時，攪拌是你把原料組合成流體混合物的過程--想想水果爽或奶油湯就知道是什么了。從關系層面來說，一個繼親家庭很少可能成為一個“整體”。更現(xiàn)實情況是這樣的一個過程：不同的原料融合在一起，或者相互接觸，很像一道又不同部分燴成的砂鍋菜。 2． 對繼父或繼母來說，和一個繼子女有著親密的關系，正在和另一個繼子女建立關系，還和年紀較大的那個繼子女有一定距離，這些都是很正常的。一個繼親家庭內部的關系親疏不同，并不是液態(tài)的混合體的關系。 3． 食物加工器式：這些繼親婚家庭把彼此以前的家庭歷史剁碎切斷，試圖立即將所有原料迅速地合為一體。但是當愛還沒有產生時，這種做法會使家庭成員感覺被撕成了碎片，沒有誰還能保持完整。 4． 這種心態(tài)的典式例子就是大人要求繼子女稱繼父母為“爸爸”或“媽媽”，仿佛是告訴孩子：“我們已經(jīng)剁碎了你親生爸爸，把他丟到一邊去，這是你的新爸爸”。這些父母居然相信他們的孩子就會買賬。 5． 微波式：這些家庭拒絕被定義為繼親家庭，試圖通過快速加熱原料的方式變成一個“黑家庭”（雙關含義）。它們力求避免貼上繼親家庭的標簽，以及它們與別的任何家庭的不同的暗示。有些人告訴我，他們討厭自己的家庭被稱為繼親家庭，因為這讓他們覺得低人一等。繼親家庭本無過錯，較之于其他的家庭，它們既不好也不壞，只是不同罷了。 6． 我想強調這一點，不管你如何拼命地努力，想讓你的繼親家庭跟嫡親通家庭一模一樣，但這就是辦不到。雖然繼親家庭也有同嫡親家庭相似的地方，但每個繼親家庭都有同嫡親家庭不一樣的獨有的特點。有些方面是相同的，有些又不相同。 7． 對于繼親家庭的正常整合，障礙是父母雙方都否認這個事實。不管是有意識還是無意識，父母總是試圖使他們的繼親家庭跟他們原先的家庭或第一個家庭一模一樣——如有不同也只會使更好?！爱吘梗庇腥苏f，“布朗特"布茲做到了，我們?yōu)槭裁床恍心?？?8． 去接受你家庭獨特的挑戰(zhàn)和機會, 是找到創(chuàng)造性地解決你的困境的方法的所邁出的第一大步。如果你拒絕承認有區(qū)別, 就會在不經(jīng)意間喪失斯學習新的更有效的溝通方法的能力。 9. 壓力鍋式：這個家庭融合方式的結果，是把原料和調料（即儀式、價值觀、偏好）置于高壓之下完全混合起來。這種家庭生活處于極大的壓力之下，由于期望值過高，常常會炸開鍋。
translation 讀、思、研 5 10． 繼親家庭認為解決節(jié)日儀式方面的各種沖突就是去合并傳統(tǒng)習俗，這就是壓力鍋式的心態(tài)表現(xiàn)。繼親家庭了解合并儀式有時是有效的，這點十分重要的，但是迫使家人欣然接受這種合并就會破壞其結果。這種麻煩從如下的例子中就能一目了然。Paul和他的孩子形成了一個有意義的圣誕傳統(tǒng)，每個人會在平安夜打開一份禮物，剩余的禮物第二天再打開。但是，他的新太太Sharon和她的孩子保持著在圣誕節(jié)早上吃完特別早餐后再把禮物全部打開的傳統(tǒng)?？只胖校琍aul在第二個圣誕節(jié)前幾周打電話說：“我好怕過今年的圣誕，去年我和Sharon合并我們各自的節(jié)日傳統(tǒng)，但是結果太慘了。按我這邊的傳統(tǒng)，我們讓孩子在平安夜打開一份禮物；按她那邊的傳統(tǒng)，在圣誕節(jié)的早餐后打開剩余的禮物。但是所有人都不喜歡這個結果。每個人都感覺在參加葬禮而不是在慶祝圣誕，最后我和Sharon鬧翻了，直到過完新年。今年該怎么辦呢，自己過自己的節(jié)日嗎？” 找到有效的過圣誕的方法有時需要一個試錯的過程，但是迫使家人接受只能導致錯誤。